Joshua Gold Coaching

"You have no responsibility to live up to what other people think you ought to accomplish. 

I have no responsibility to be like they expect me to be.

 It's their mistake, not my failing." Physicist Richard Feynman, on dealing with expectations. 

I know that you have heard this before. It's all about the stories that other people tell us. Other people's expectations of who we ought to be to the point we think we are supposed to be. We want to please those people, so we spend years trying to be that person. Just to wake up one day trying to figure out how I got here, feeling trapped and not knowing what to do next. If you are lucky, you are finding this out early enough in your life that you don't have the responsibilities of other people, like a wife and children, a mortgage, and car payments. College education to look forward to. You get the picture. Don't get me wrong; I am not saying that should deter you from what you want to do or who you want to be. It...

The Cost of…. 

Over the next few days or weeks, I will be writing about “The Cost of…”  The cost of doing something, the cost of not doing something. The cost of starting, the cost of not starting..., and so on. But today we start with just  “the cost of..."

We don’t automatically think that there is a cost of doing something. We just do it and that’s it. It’s part of our job, our life, our relationships. We just take action each and every day. What would happen, what might change if we first thought of the cost of doing that something?

The Cost of…getting up 30 minutes earlier each morning

The Cost of…having a morning routine

The Cost of…taking out the garbage

The Cost of…having a glass of water in the morning

The Cost of…journaling

The Cost of…being tolerant of others

The Cost of…listening without judgment

The Cost of…gossiping

The Cost...

YOUR CIRCLE OF SIGNIFICANCE

What is the effect of your significance?

On yourself? On those you love? On your business? On strangers, you meet? At that dinner party that you are at?

How deep is your circle of significance? What exactly does that mean and does it matter…..to you? These are all questions that I ask myself and my clients. The circle of significance and the circle of influence are two very different circles. They come from very different places. The distinction is where it originates.

Your circle of significance comes from your heart and soul. It comes from a deep place that only a few people can enter. As opposed to your circle of influence might come from a good place. A place that you might call your heart. Though I would challenge that it is a different part of your heart. Not as intimate and one that you wish to grow with as many people that you can.

This missive focuses on the Circle of Significance. A vulnerable place to be. How many people's lives are you...