What could your life look like?

Mine, yours, does it really matter. What could our lives look like? I could use coaching just as much as anyone else. Maybe even more.

We all have similar issues. Some of us are aware of them, and some are not.
Awareness is the first step to progress.
Some people aren’t even aware they are the problem. They are the bottleneck, the obstacle getting in the way of who they can be and what their lives can look like.
There are so many books written about all of this. It’s never an easy solution though it does sound simple. Just Do It! That’s what Nike says. And if it was that simple, we would all be where we want to.
What a wonderful world we would be living in then. But is it that simple? Is it that easy? I am sure you have all heard the saying,” It’s simple, not easy. “ I guess they are both not easy. What a surprise!
It takes work and willingness and insight, and the help of a few friends. And who knows what else along the way. Oh, and I forgot an excellent Coach who you connect with and trust has your best interest at heart!
There is a lot of snake salesman out there. Especially during Covid, they have come out of the woodwork. So be aware of anyone selling you the 7 steps to success, from couch potato to millionaire bon vivant. It just doesn’t happen that way. ( Are You Deserving ).
You have to want it bad. You have to work for it. You need to be willing to screw up and fall down and get back up and repeat. As Angela Duckworth writes about, you need to have Grit, you must have a growth mindset that Carol Dweck writes about, and you need to believe that Personality isn’t Permanent, as Benjamin Hardy discusses in his book. To name just a few books that you should stop and order on amazon.com or from your local bookstore and start reading. I will wait a few minutes while you go order them.
With a growth mindset, grit, and the belief that you can change your personality, you can.
So, what would you like your life to look like in 90 days, in 12 months, in 3 or 5 years? How about looking forward 10 years. I know that things are moving so incredibly fast that it’s hard to imagine who you want to be so far out. Though if you could, who would you be? How much money would you have? What kind of work would you be doing? Would you be single, married, children? How many? Grandchildren, pets, where would you live, what kind of house would you live in. What would you do for recreation? What type of car would you drive? How many homes would you have? How would they be decorated? Do you like cooking and entertaining? Who would your friends be? What would your business look like? Do you have your own business, or are you an employee?
There is no right or wrong answer. It’s your life. What about your relationships. What does the wife do, look like, what activities do you do together? Does she do things that you don’t like to do? There are so many things that you can start to think about and develop.
This all must sound a bit overwhelming, and you might be wondering why do I even need to do this? You don’t. You can live your life the way you are living it now. If you are happy and content with the way your life is going, then by all means. You can live day to day reacting to life as it happens to you. Or you can always reframe it. You can respond to the things that life throws your way because you are the cause and effect of everything that happens for you.
Things don’t happen to you. Things happen for you. As Benjamin Hardy so eloquently discusses in his various works. It is your job to figure out why! What lessons need to be learned along the way. Things happening to you are a victim’s mentality; things happening for you are a growth-minded mindset. Someone who takes responsibility, ownership of one’s life and circumstances.
So, you might find yourself at a crossroads in life? Or a period of uncertainty. Not knowing what’s next. What’s next can be sitting down with a pad and pen and thinking about life and what it could look like? Spend some time thinking about YOU in this world. Then once you have done that as Nike says….Just Do It!

Joshua